All relationships are put to fire. There is no such thing as
a constantly happy couple and an unfailing relationship. Whatever relationship
we have, it will always have to surpass a point where conflicts arise and go
beyond our control.
We
should bear in mind that relationships are put to test to make stronger and
better persons out of us. The challenge is whether we pass the test with our
loved ones still on our side or with only ourselves in the end. Love can be the
best ingredient of a successful relationship. With love, we can do things we
never knew we can. We can make everything happen just the way we like it to
happen. And love, above all things, can change the world and conquer all.
However, we should not forget another ingredient: Communication—the lifeblood
of every relationship.
Many
would agree that there are certain things in a relationship that should be kept
unsaid but not all the time that we have to believe it. It is because the
moment we lie about our feelings, we unconsciously build a wall around us.
Every time we hide something out of fear or shame, the wall becomes higher and
bigger until we become strangers to the people we love. Hurting inside ensues
and sadly, when we can no longer bear the pain, we resort to giving up on the
love that we most wanted to keep.
If we
cannot barely express ourselves, our doubts, fears and insecurities to the
people we love, the next probable thing to happen is the relationship to fail.
Sometimes, it is better to be hurt by an honest mistake that you knew than a
betrayal that you didn’t saw coming. Some people suffer in silence because they
fear that opening up just makes things worse. They keep things to themselves
until their affection to each other diminishes and lead to separation.
No
matter how heavy our burden is, it can always be lightened by an honest,
heartfelt and peaceful exchange of thoughts and feelings. Fights are
inevitable. Oftentimes, we hurt those we love because we tend to think of our
own sake. Remember, selfishness is a poison that heedlessly kills any
relationship. The happiness that we get from satisfying our own wants is the
happiness that we deprive others of. And worse, our joy becomes their pain and
our rise becomes their fall.
Indeed,
beautiful things will always be built from foundations of pain. We face myriad
hindrances just to find out in the end that we can be the best. We love and get
hurt but it doesn’t matter how much pain we had. What matters is that we have a
space in our hearts that heals, forgives and forgets everything we’ve been
through. It also doesn’t matter how many times we stumbled. What matters is how
we took the courage to stand again and prove to the world that it’s not an
option to give up. In the end, when all else fails, what will really matter the most is that we did love at
all..
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