The Perfect Job

Let me ask you, do you love your job? Or you discreetly hate it?

We all have a job to do. Whether you are the professional one, striving real hard in the corporate world, or you are the humble one who prefers to stick to indigenous resources for a living, or you are one who serves the community and the government, you still play the role of being a job-doer, like everyone else. Some say, you can consider your life to have succeeded if you have found a job that is stable and that offers the optimum benefits. However, not all jobs that you will get are right for you. Sometimes, you only had that job because someone you knew has referred you to a particular company. Another reason is that maybe, your luck is kind to you that of all the applicants who applied for your current job, you were the one that was chosen for some reason you cannot clearly fathom. Also, you cannot hide the fact that sometimes, you land a job because it’s the first one that came knocking on your door when you badly needed one or when you were just a fresh graduate from college.

So how would you know if your current job is the right one for you? Could it be if it pays more than what you need? Or maybe, if it has given you myriad opportunities professionally and socially? What about if it helps you become who you actually aspired for to become when you were little? Could it be if it is equipped with benefits that lessen your life’s inconveniences? Lastly, is it if your job allowed you to have more acquaintances and boost your career?

The answer on the aforementioned questions are all NO. It is never a measure of a job being compatible to you if it provides you the material things that you just want but you do not actually need. They’re just petty things that you make big because you wanted too much when you already have what is sufficient. Also, professional and social opportunities aren’t what your job has given you, they are the privilege that you have given to yourself because you worked hard on something. As for your aspiration when you were little, it may be true that your job had helped you to reach that far but without your determination, strong will and perseverance, you would not really become who you’ve always wanted if you had just relied on the prestige that your job gives you. Similarly, having a lot of benefits, acquaintances and career enhancement from your job does not entitle you to the sweetest results that you may find fascinating. Of course, who would not be tempted with those highly-rewarding things? But at the end of the day, you’d just realize that those things are really not important.

The true essence of a job being right for you is if it makes you happy and motivated. It’s like, though you face difficulties in doing your job, you still don’t want to give up and you keep coming back for more. It may not be as high-paying as the other jobs but for you, it is more than enough. It’s when you feel in your heart that in every day, it’s your job that you always want to do. Notwithstanding any shortcomings of your job, it’s what you would sign up for over and over again.

             There is really no perfect job but there’s a job that is rightfully just for you. Every job has its flaws but when you manage to get through them and you're still happy with your job, that's it. Don't ask for anything more. We should never expect our job to give us only the good times. It's like expecting life to offer you the best when truthfully, sometimes it gives you the worst. There is no perfect life as there is no perfect job. Learn to understand and eventually, move on--for the better and not for the worse.

The Ex's and Why's

              When it comes to love, wala naman talagang expert. We fall in love, and then we fall out of it; magiging in a relationship tayo, next thing we knew, natapos na pala; lovers kayo yesterday pero ngayon, strangers na lang. It is just a continuous cycle of finding someone to love but eventually losing them along the way. Etong “someone” na nahahanap natin pero nawawala din ay ang tinatawag nating  “ex”, or  “past”, or isang “old flame”, whichever term you would like to call it. These “exes” remind us that when things are not meant, it never will be kaya hindi natin kailangang ipilit. Alam man natin o hindi ang reason kung bakit nawala sila sa buhay natin, we just have to be okay that they got away.

                So, without further introductions, let’s head to the real fuzz that we have here: The Kinds of Ex You Will Have Along the Way and Why It Didn’t Work Out.

          1.  The Instant Lover

Description/Characteristics: Eto yung ex that you just had because you want to experience what it feels like to have someone to be in a relationship with. Parang ganito, lahat ng friends mo eh may jowa or special someone na at nakikita mo kung gaano sila kasaya pag kasama ang mga jowa nila. Dahil parang type mo din ng ganun, when you found one that could be your instant partner/date, you initiated a relationship kahit na parang hindi mo pa naman siya gaanong love. Minsan naman, nagkakaroon tayo ng ganitong klase ng ex dahil ayaw natin maging “the-forever single” or “the-lagi-na-lang-third-wheel” sa barkada.

Why It Didn’t Work Out: Simple, there was no love or if there was love, it is not already established between the two of you. Ang love, hindi yan parang instant noodles na konting kulo lang at halo ng condiments, pwede na. Iba pa rin talaga kapag niluto mo eto ng may totoong sahog at pagmamahal.

          2. The Best Actor

Description/Characteristics: Ang ex naman na eto ay pwede mong bigyan ng award sa hindi matatawarang pag-arte na sobrang love ka niya when the truth is,  hindi pa siya nakakamove-on sa ex niya. Chances are, lagi ka niyang sasabihan ng sweet nothings (na minsan ay nakakainis na sa sobrang corny pero gusto ng ex niya) and give you special material gifts (na hindi man lang niya tinanong kung gusto mo pero gusto pala ng ex niya) because masyado siyang comfortable doing it without even realizing na sa ibang tao na pala niya ginagawa ang mga gingagawa niya dati para sa ex niya.

Why It Didn’t Work Out: Nobody really gets a happy ending with a rebound relationship. Kung ang present mo eh stuck pa din sa ex nya, mas tama na maging ex mo na din siya para quits kayo. Past is past, kumbaga.

          3. The Self-Centered Freak

Description/Characteristics: This kind of ex ay ang ex natin na we didn’t end up with because hindi natin kayang sabayan ang pagiging “sobrang perfect” niya. Eto yung tipong sa inyong dalawa, siya lagi yung “mas”: Mas magaling, mas matalino, mas mabait, mas love ka, and the list goes on. This person always wants to be the center of attention kaya kapag hindi ni-recognize ang simpleng achievement niya, nagtatampo siya. Kapag may misunderstandings kayo, kahit siya ang may kasalanan, it’s you who need to initiate reconciliation. Minsan naman, may mga sinasabi siya na bawal mo gawin pero pag siya, pwede.

Why It Didn’t Work Out: You simply cannot live with unfair situations. Kung sobrang perfect niya, baka mas bagay sila ng isang tao na sobrang perfect din kagaya niya. In that way, you won’t feel inferior when you’re together.

           4. The Mysterious Type

Description/Characteristics: Siya ang ex na pa-mysterious ang peg. Yun tipong ang tagal niyo nang magkasama pero parang madami ka pa ring hindi alam tungkol sa kanya. Nasabi mo na lahat ng kwento tungkol sa’yo, sa parents mo, sa friends mo, sa kapitbahay niyo, sa friends ng kapitbahay niyo pero parang hindi mo pa din siya lubos na kilala. Like, you already gave your full self pero siya, parang laging may kulang. Okay naman kayo, walang masyadong problema pero minsan mapapaisip ka na, “Siya ba talaga yung gusto ko?”

Why It Didn’t Work Out: Privacy is important to a relationship but it is not as important as love. Sometimes, people get lost with words that they do not know how to convey their feelings so they just keep it to themselves. Your relationship didn’t work out dahil masyado kayong naging strange sa isa’t-isa. Although lagi kayong magkasama, hindi niyo namalayan na marami pa din pala kayong hindi napapag-usapan o naii-share sa bawat isa.

           5. The Closeted Lover

Description/Characteristics: Many times, we get hurt with unexpected circumstances but unexpected as they are, they really aren't always gonna be good. In love, there is also a fortuitous event that we don’t want to happen. It is when our lover turns out to be gay. Hay, mahirap naman talaga na sa tagal ng pagsasama niyo, saka mo pa lang malalaman na hindi pala kayo pwede, na kaya pala magkasundo kayo sa lahat ng bagay kasi pareho pala kayo ng gusto. Natuwa ka na may nakakasama kang mamili ng mga gamit or damit mo, yun pala malulungkot ka lang pag nalaman mo na yun din pala ang gusto niya para sa kanya given the chance.

Why It Didn’t Work Out:  Reality hurts. Kahit na sobrang mahal mo siya, mahirap i-accept ang totoong pagkatao niya at hindi mo rin gugustuhin na pigilan niya ang totoong nararamdaman niya para lang sumaya ka. Medyo unfair na i-pursue ang isang tao na alam mong hindi ikaw  ang talagang gusto.

          6. The Obsessed One

Description/Characteristics: Siya ang ex na hindi mo na-take ang sobrang pagmamhal sa ‘yo that it sometimes led to being obsessed. To describe, siya yun tipo na: overprotective (to the point na ayaw niya na may ibang tao kang nakikilala o nakakasalamuha); insecure (to the point na may makatext, makausap o makasalubong ka lang na kakilala, iniisip agad na hihiwalayan mo na siya) at overacting (to the point na ang lahat lang ng gusto niya ang dapat gawin mo, pag hindi mo sinunod, hindi mo na siya mahal).

Why It Didn’t Work Out: Siyempre, kung wala kang freedom, magtatagal ka ba? Yung plan nga may Freedom eh, ikaw pa? Hindi mo rin naman siguro pinangarap na maging isang kalapati na nakakulong sa hawla di ba?

          7.  The PDA Type

Description/Characteristics: PDA- from the meaning itself. Need I say more? Well, eto yun ex na sa sobrang sweet eh bet na bet ang PDA. Wala namang masama sa PDA kung hindi eto sobra na minsan eh masama nang tingnan. Andiyan yung pag-pinch ng konti then hug, then maya-maya stolen kisses na. Okay lang naman, kaso minsan talaga eh awkward na.

Why It Didn’t Work Out: You cannot really explain the feeling. Siguro nainis ka na lang at nagsawa sa ganoong set-up.

          8. The Work-In-Progress

Description/Characteristics: Eto naman ang ex mo na nagbreak na lang kayo, hindi mo pa rin alam kung ano naging finished product niya. Siya yung klase ng tao na sa sobrang at ease sa present na buhay eh parang ayaw nang maglevel-up at parang kontento na lang sa pagiging Work-In-Progress. Halimbawa, priority mo ang magtrabaho kasi makakatulong sa future yun, pero siya hindi. Hindi naman masama na mabuhay tayo sa present, nagiging masama lang ito kung wala na talaga tayong plano para sa future.

Why It Didn’t Work Out: You cannot grow as a person if someone you’re in a relationship with doesn’t want to grow either. Who knows, the day you separated is also the day that your ex realized that in a relationship, it is important to have the same priorities. Naging ex mo siya kasi na-feel mo na you deserve someone better or that you could have a better life kapag wala na kayo.

                Love is indeed a cycle of finding the wrong ones until we end up with the ones rightfully destined for us. No matter how good or bad our previous relationships were, they still deserve to be treasured because without them, we won’t learn a lesson that will help on our next love affair. Though past is past, our “ex” are simply the best representation that if we want something, we just have to wait because everything has the right timing.

          This ends my list of “Exes” that we’ll meet in our lives. Do you have any other “Ex- related” experiences? Please feel free to share it by leaving a comment below.

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Perks of Being Single

Sabi nila, kapag single ka, malungkot daw ang buhay mo. Yun tipong hindi ka taken, wala kang "ka-moment" o wala kang kapalitan ng kasweetan. Akala nila, naging ampalaya ka na sa sobrang bitter mo o kaya naging yelo na ang paligid mo dahil ayaw mong mag-Let Go. Ang hindi nila alam, maraming benefits ang taong single kesa sa taong "In a relationship".

          Pero anu-ano nga ba? Heto, let's enumerate the Perks of Being Single (in my honest and witty point of view—that’s if I have a point):

 1.      Kapag isa na lang ang bakante sa PUV (jeep, fx o tryke), ikaw ang best candidate para makasakay.

• Basically, kapag mag-isa ka, para kang superhero ng mga pasaherong nakasakay na at naghihintay na lang ng pupuno sa sasakyan para makaalis ito. Kalimitan kasi, isa lang talaga ang natitirang bakante sa mga PUV pero hindi ito umaalis hangga’t hindi pa puno. Sige, sabihin nating maraming nakapila na sasakay, pero kung ang lahat ng yun ay may mga kasama, hindi pa rin ito mapupuno dahil malamang, hindi sila maghihiwalay. So kung single ka, “You are the lucky one kasi kaya mong sumiksik kahit saan”

 2.      Isang bagay lang ang nagpapaiyak sa’yo: Sibuyas.

• Kapag nasa isang relationship ka, hindi maiiwasan na may mga tampuhan or misunderstanding and admit it or not, there are times na tuwing may ganitong sitwasyon, umiiyak ka. Baka nga kahit maliit na bagay lang like hindi ka tinext ng jowa mo maghapon, iiyakan mo na eh. O kaya naman, nag-away kayo at hindi pa kayo nagrereconcile, then nakapanood ka ng something na nakarelate sa sitwasyon mo, iiyakan mo rin yun db? Kasi feeling mo, ikaw yun. Pero kung single ka, ang paggayat ng sibuyas na lang ang iiyakan mo (pero pwede ring ng patatas—kagaya ni Princess Sarah).

 3.      Kapag may mahahalagang okasyon kagaya ng Pasko at Bagong Taon, makakatipid ka sa regalo.

•   Kapag single ka, konti na lang ang reregaluhan mo: family mo, ilang kaibigan, mga inaanak, boss, officemates, kapitbahay at iba pa na feel mong regaluhan. Ang maganda dito, wala kang ka-love team na iisipin mo pa kung ano at magkano ang ireregalo mo. Tipid ka na sa gastos, less effort pa. Amazing ‘di ba?

 4.      You can “gala-all-you-want”.

• There, I said it, “gala-all-you-want”. Patok na patok yan sa mga single kc nga naman kung in a relationship ka, meron kang someone na kailangan mo pang hingian ng permiso para pumunta sa isang lugar o maghang-out with some friends. At kung hindi siya pumayag? Wala, mukmok ka na lang sa isang tabi at mageexpect ka na lang ng pasalubong from your friends. Kuha ka na lang ng flashlight, maghum ka ng sound konti at sumayaw ka.

 5.      Holidays na lang ang “days” na i-cecelebrate mo. No more, no less.

• “Weeksary”, “Monthsary”, “100 days”, “Anniversary”, lahat ng yan, mawawala na sa listahan ng mga dapat mong i-celebrate. Pag kasi in a relationship ka, dapat tanda mo ang lahat ng yan, magpeprepare ka ng gift para kay jowa tapos magdadate kayo somewhere. So kung single ka, yung mga declared holidays na lang ang i-cecelebrate mo at tatandaan sa kalendaryo. Hassle kasi minsan na ang daming dates na kailangan mong alalahanin, yun parang gugustuhin mo na lang na magkaroon ng recorder sa utak mo para tanda mo lahat.

 6.      You’re like a fish in the water, always ready to be caught (pero pwedeng magpakipot.)

• So kung single ka, bongga ka. Why? Kasi kumbaga, you have all the freedom in the world to be someone’s special someone. Kaya kung may magustuhan ka, it’s never a sin to show reciprocal love. Hindi mo na kailangan pa na masangkot o maging isang third party dahil unang-una, you are single and definitely ready to mingle. Pero syempre, may “K” ka din naman na maging choosy or pakipot sometimes. It’s part of the game of being single. Trust me, it works.

7.      Hindi ka na isang alien sa harap ng mga kaibigan at kapamilya mo.

• Magugulat na lang ang mga kaibigan at kapamilya mo kasi always present ka na sa gatherings na dati ay nakakaubusan mo na ng alibi. Minsan pa nga ikaw na ang nagoorganize ng event para lang magkaroon kayo ng reunion. Ang ganda sa pakiramdam ‘di ba? Parang ang gagawin mo na lang ay tumawa at maging masaya kasama ang mga taong nagpapahalaga at mahalaga din sa’yo.

 8.      You have more things for yourself: time, money at especially, love.

• Taob na ang mga dating favorite songs mo kasi kapag single ka, “Greatest Love of All” na ang awit ng buhay mo. Hindi naman sa pagiging bitter dahil hindi ka in a relationship, sabihin na lang natin na you are just being sweet to yourself kasi being single means giving yourself everything that you want and deserve such as food you like to eat, clothes and shoes you like to wear, savings account that you want to have at iba pa na saka mo lang marerealize kapag single ka. Pero higit sa lahat, marami ka nang oras para alagaan at mahalin ang sarili mo na kung tawagin nga nila ay “ME” time.

 9.      Career na career mo ang career mo.

• Sabi nila, kapag wala daw lovelife, maganda ang career. Yun lang.

 10.  You are more lovable and adorable than those who are in a relationship.

• When you’re single, you always dress well and try to be good-looking. Yan siguro ang reason kung bakit pag single ka eh maganda/gwapo ka sa paningin ng iba. Yung kahit hindi ka naman nag-aayos, sasabihin nila, “Uy, blooming ka.” Masarap lang sa pakiramdam kasi feel na feel mo na though you are not committed to someone, there are people who find you attractive or worth a chance.

So this ends my list. I know na marami ka pang gustong idagdag. Come on, don’t be shy. Just voice it out because #TheVoicePH is back. Hahaha!

If you could add something to my list, I would be glad to hear it. As a reward, I will tell my buddy, Nicholas, to be good to you this Christmas. Will a new beau be enough for you?

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What's There to Count

One, I had your trust

Two, what's between us is fair and just

Three, we're close as pen and paper

Four, everything is such a good weather

Five, I can't stand being without you

Six, my life's incomplete if I'm not with you

Seven, you really won me over

Eight, I want you to be mine until forever

Nine, will you still be there?
Ten, will you still show some care?

Eleven, is it enough that I am what you have?

Twelve, can we endure this love?

Kung ang Love ay may Warning Signs…

Ilang ulit na tayong nainlove. Yung iba, their first love is also the one they ended up with. Yung iba naman, parang pagpapalit lang ng damit ang pagiging in love. Yung iba, naiinlove sa maling tao o sa maling pagkakataon. At may iba rin naman na maraming beses nang nasaktan dahil sa love. Ganunpaman, gusto pa rin nating magmahal, nang paulit-ulit, nang lagi-lagi, yung parang wala nang bukas.

Pero what if ang love ay may warning signs? Will you be guided on the right direction?

1.       Caution: Falling Quickly

Para eto sa mga taong mabilis ma-fall. Like, konting gestures lang ng pagkagusto sa kanya ng isang tao, gusto na nya kaagad eto. Minsan naman, kahit hindi sya gusto ng gusto nya, basta pinansin sya ng taong gusto nya, parang head over heels in love na agad siya.

Remember: We should not fall in love too quickly. There’s such thing as “Getting-to-know” stage na pwede natin makilala kung ano o sino ba talaga ang taong sinasabi natin na inlove tayo. Malay mo, you both have some things in common like kung babae ka, you’re both into boys. We’ll never know. Hehe. Besides, there’s always a perfect timing. Kung hindi pa para sa’yo ang love, baka bukas o sa isang araw, para sa’yo na. Wait lang ng konti.

2.       Hard Heart Area 

Ang warning sign na eto ay para sa mga taong “Pusong-bato”. Kung gaano kabilis mainlove ng ibang  tao, sila naman yung tipo na kahit yata magbuwis-buhay na tumbling sa harap nila ang taong may gusto sa kanila eh hindi pa rin nila eto mapapansin. They’re somewhat naïve when it comes to love or they’re just too hard to please. What more to love someone back?

Remember: Sa ganitong sitwasyon, ang kailangan lang natin ay maging prepared at magkaroon ng bonggang bonggang pasensya. Sabi nga nila, “Patience is a virtue” pero kung hindi mo virtue ang patience, sige respect na lang. Sa kahit ano namang pagkakataon, dapat natin irespeto na may mga tao talaga na hindi basta-basta mababago ng simpleng pagpapakita ng love. In one way or another, I’m sure naging mailap ka din naman, baka nga choosy pa. So ayun, respeto na lang muna.

3.        Slow Down: Friend Zone

Ayan na nga, sino may sabi na lahat ng kaibigan mo, pwede mo makatuluyan? Hindi rin naman siguro. May iba pa rin na once naging kaibigan ang isang tao, they’ll remain as friends no matter what. By “no matter what” means kahit na ano pa mang set-up meron sila: whether they are friends with benefits, friends with limited benefits o friends with unlimited benefits. Sila na bahala dun, nasa pag-uusap naman yun eh. Medyo komplikado nga lang ang ganito. Kahit ako, nahirapan iexplain eto pero since kasama ito sa topic, I tried.

Remember: In this quirky game of love and playing fire (I mean games), the first one to fall in love will lose. Simple lang, kung hanggang kaibigan lang talaga ang kaya nya ibigay sa’yo, hindi mo siya mapipilit to give more than that. Isa pa, may mutual understanding naman siguro kayo na bawal mainlove, unless that time eh busy ka sa paglalaro ng Candy Crush kaya hindi mo naintindihan ang pinagusapan nyo.

4.       Love At Your Own Risk

So, eto naman ang warning sign para sa mga taong “matapang”. They are those who are brave enough to love someone who they barely know or someone na they did not intentionally want to love but ended up loving. Para din eto sa mga tao na mahilig sa adventure, yun tipong in a relationship na pero still willing to take the risk of entering into another relationship. Will it make them happy? Pwede. Pero pwede din naman na it’s just one way of enjoying their liberty. Well, as long as kaya nilang panindigan ang lahat at cool lang nilang madadala ang mga posibleng maging problema ng risk na i-tatake nila, wala naman siguro magiging mali.

Remember: The more na naghahanap tayo ng satisfaction, the more na magiging komplikado ang buhay natin. Okay lang naman mainlove sa hindi lang iisang tao, pero romantically, parang mahirap. So as prescribed, if you want to love at your own risk, be ready for all the burden. In the end, you’ll be surprised for the fruit of your hardwork.

5.        No Third Partying

Eto na siguro ang magiging pinakatrending na warning sign worldwide. Aba eh ilang Legal Wife, Mrs. Real at Other Woman na ba ang napanood natin? Ewan ko ba kung bakit nauso ang Third Party na yan. May point rin naman sila sa pagpapalabas ng mga tungkol sa mistress, panloloko ng asawa o ng paghihiwalay dahil sa isang tao na pumagitan. Sabi nga ng isang joke, “Hindi lahat ng party eh nakakatuwa kasi meron ding nakakainis, nakakapangilig ng laman at nakakapamura. Ano pa eh di “Third-Party.” Siguro sa iba, exciting kapag nakikijoin sa isang relasyon pero what if ikaw din pala eh may ganung sitwasyon? Masakit di ba?

Remember: Hindi sa lahat ng oras, maganda ang makihati. Lahat tayo ay may kanya-kanyang kapalaran na nakalaan kaya wag tayong makisingit sa isang kwento na hindi naman tayo ang bida kundi isang ekstra lamang.

6.      Reduce Love Now

Ito ay para sa mga taong sobra kung magmahal. FYI, lahat ng labis ay masama. When we love someone more than we love ourselves, we are giving them the right to hurt us in the most hurtful way they can. Kumbaga sa road trip, hinay-hinay muna, pwede namang bumagal sandali. Tsaka, pag nagmamahal naman tayo, hindi natin kailanagan ibigay ang 100% ng pagkatao natin. Dapat pa din tayong magtira ng konti para sa sarili natin, sa pamilya natin o sa iba pang bagay o tao na parte rin naman ng buhay natin.

Remember: Hindi mawawala ang bukas. Kung magmamahal ka, wag mong sagarin hanggang buto.

7.       Caution: Dangerous Love Ahead

Ano nga ba ang isang “dangerous” na love? Ito ba ay kapag hindi ka mahal ng taaong mahal na mahal mo? Ito ba ay yung tipo ng pag-ibig na maling tao ang minahal mo? O ito ba yung sa sitwasyon na meron ka, hindi tama ang magmahal? Sa lahat ng tanong na nabanggit, the answer is YES. Mahirap naman talaga ang mainlove lalo na kapag hindi mo alam ang gagawin mo. Pwedeng first time mo pa lang magmahal o masyado kang nasaktan sa previous relationship mo kaya hindi mo na alam kung paano magmahal ulit. Kapag ganito ang sitwasyon, ang kailangan mo lang gawin ay ang mag-ingat.

Remember: Though the future is unpredictable, it is always nice to fall in love. Not knowing if you’ll have a happy ever after or your love story just started with “Once upon a time” makes it more exciting to take your share on the love bug. However, we should be cautious. We should learn when to fall and know when to move on. It’s just like that: We fall in love, if it doesn’t work, then, we move on. And the cycle continues.

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Relationship Status? (It’s More Complicated!)

            


            Single? In a Relationship? It’s Complicated? What about making them more complicated?

            What could be more interesting than one’s love life? We are always asked about our relationship status and as much as we want to tell the exact answer, we often end up not saying the truth. Well, we can’t blame them, can we? In this era of massive developments, even people’s relationships and status also perk up. It seems like we are all in the showbiz industry where a big spotlight is on us and our every action is being recorded. So when someone asks us about our love life, we become like a movie star who answers such questions in a safe way but still keeps the real score.

            And now, since we are talking about love life, are you aware that many other relationship statuses now exist? These modern alternative statuses make it harder for the gossiping tongues to spread their precious humor. Thus, making somebody interested in you become more interested.

            Here are some:

1. “Available” -- Someone who may be single or in a relationship but is always feeling available to some flings/relationships.

2. “Single and ready to mingle” -- Typically single and willing to be” taken”.

3. “Discreetly Taken” -- In a relationship but not  "officially" together.

4. “Friendly” --  One who only wants a friendly relationship so as to avoid being or causing a friendzone.

5. “It's Obvious” -- It’s like, what you see is what you get. No more questions to ask.

6. “In a Contract” -- It’s when a relationship has an expiration date. Once it expires, they both forward to another relationship with someone new or if both consented, they will renew the contract.

7.” Stuck” -- That when one has not yet moved on from his/her ex and unconsciously, still hopes for a reconciliation.

8. “Assuming” -- Someone who only has a “love interest” (a suitor or someone to court) but with no formal commitment yet. However, that someone already thinks that he/she and his/her love interest is already a couple.

9. “Single and bitter” -- He or she (who has been single for a long time or who is still stuck in a previous relationship) who always gets bitter when he/she sees a couple. Their famous line is, “Time will come, you will not be together anymore.”

10. “I’m happy” -- A very safe answer to a very intriguing question if you are in a relationship. Need I say more?

            

            So, how’s your lovelife? If you’re gonna ask me, well, “I’m happy”. :-)

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Quarter of a Century (A Birthday Blog)

       

          Today is my 25^th birthday. And for the first time in forever, I’m letting go. Wait, what? I’m writing a birthday blog! Yesss! Well, I don’t know why it took me a quarter of a century before I could write something for my birthday or to commemorate my birthday. But I think it’s just fine because if I started writing from the first year that I was born, the following would have been my topics or my blogs’ titles:

• è On the finest years of being a child

1^st year- “Ma, Ma, Da, Da” (I can’t even utter a two-syllable word then)

2^nd year- “Aw-Aw, Meow-Meow” (You know it, right? When you’re 2, everybody will teach you what the sounds of the animals are)

3^rd year- “Tsug-tsug, Whoosh-whoosh, Blag-blag” (Haha, you will learn not only the animals’ sounds but some things as well)

4^th year- “Cotton Candy is not really a candy, it’s a soft lip coloring” (Need I say more?)

5^th year – “There are only 2 ways to please your parents: eat and sleep” (I almost forgot that I’m not the “playing” type back then but it’s fine at least I’m not a “player” today. Hihi)

• è On the years of being in between a child and a teen

6^th year- “Is birthday a just basis of going to Grade 1?” (I wasn’t able to accelerate to Grade 1 because that time, my birthday is after June, if it had been June or prior, I would have been Grade 1 already. Oh, school system. L)

7^th year- “When you’re 7, you are not a child anymore” (I just noticed that when I turned 7, I started to receive limited invites for children parties.  Why is that?)

8^th year- “It’s ok to excel in school but it’s better if you know Langit-Lupa” (This is funny but since I’m not used to playing outdoor games, I was always the “Taya” on Langit-Lupa. LOL)

9^th year- “Crush” (We all have our very 1^st crush. J)

10^th year- “@&%#*KGBE&*^” (This was the time my mom died.)

• è On the years before becoming a real man/woman

11^th year- “@&%#*KGBE&*^” (see previous. It’s not that easy to move on.)

12^th year- “Almost is never enough” (I’m sure by this time, I was excited to graduate. But since it’s not yet happening, I made it a point to enjoy every single moment)

13^th year- “The monthly visitor” (Finally, the first!)

14^th year- “How to be a model student” (I was chosen to be one of the Model Students for this year. Luckily, I got the award—until now, I don’t know why. Haha)

15^th year-“Chemistry is as hard as love” (I don’t know, I really can’t understand love, oops, Chemistry. So maybe, that would have been an interesting topic to write about)

• è On tough times, as in tough times

16^th year- “Goodbye is always bittersweet if you have good friends” (This was my last birthday that I was with my high school friends. I missed them, really. L)

17^th year- “Alone” (This year, my dad died. I don’t want to pity myself but on my birthday, I felt as if I am totally alone and I only have me, myself and I. L)

18^th year- “Music is the lifeblood of my life” (It was my 18^th birthday, my debut. Well, I was happy that I received my very first guitar—courtesy of my friends. Since then, I became inclined to music. Thanks guys!)

19^th year- “Clueless” (I was excited about some poem writing that I’ll be joining in on the following month. When I look back, I can’t remember why I was chosen to compete)

20^th year-“The road not taken” (On this year, my interests became so messed up. It’s like I want something but I want this other thing as well. In the end, I felt regret for something I did not take. L

• è Seriously, on serious years (or years I’m not so serious of?)

21^st year- “Life after college is the life of man” (This year, I was able to land my first job. Though things didn’t turn out the way I imagined it, I was glad that I still made it work by not giving up)

22^nd year- “Birthdays are made to be celebrated” (I can’t remember what I did this year. Forget my selective amnesia. Haha. But since it’s my birthday, I would have written about something. I just can’t tell what would that something be. LOL)

23^rd year- “Surprise! Surprise!” (I used to hate surprises but since my friends prepared a surprise birthday party for me on this year, I made it a yearly thought that on my birthday, I might get another surprise birthday party. Haha. So to all my friends, I accept surprises. I promise. J)

24^th year- “I’m blessed” (This year, I have received myriad blessings and some of which are really worth the wait. I sometimes feel that I don’t deserve them but thinking how I endured my life’s every ups and downs, I felt like these blessings are my rewards. For that, I’ll always be grateful for everything and everyone who had been a part of my struggle.)

                So if these are what I have written on the past 24 years, I can’t imagine what I would write about now. It’s always nice to look back on how our life has been on the last years we can barely remember. By looking back, we are given the chance to evaluate things, to recall how we made it to where we are right now and to put back the missing pieces of our puzzled life.

                Life is an event that should be celebrated not just on the day that we were born or on the years with the same day after that. Rather, we should commemorate life everyday. It is a gift more precious than anything we could and we have already received. Before it’s too late, give it a time to throw back your yesterdays. Who knows, your yesterdays would be the best foundation of your tomorrows?

                hourglass